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How I Built my Confidence by Tapping into My Own Experiences. You can Too!

How I Built My Confidence by Tapping into My Own Experiences. You Can Too! Sebastien Le Derout by Unsplash. Media's impact on my confidence.  Media has played a major role in how people tend to view themselves and their place in society. I was not an exception.  “ Fake it until you make it. Never let them see you sweat. You have to be twice as good to go half as far .” These are the things that I and many of my friends were taught growing up in a black home.   The same statements were told to many black children in 1970’s and 1980’s. I grew up at a time where most girls were taught to be a secretary or a nurse; never a doctor or any profession that were (at that time seemingly) reserved for males. The Cosby show was one of the first black show that broke through the stereotypes and was the epitome of the American family. Mom was a fierce attorney and Dad was a doctor.   There were five children who seemed pretty “normal” by television standards. I adored the show and the possibilit

Unspoken Rules of the Interview During a job Interview: Updated 2022

Three years ago, I posted an answer on Quora regarding unspoken rules during the job interview. At the time, I had no idea that it would still actively generate upvotes three years later. My goal was to help a candidate feel better prepared during the interview process. 177K+ views and 700+ upvotes later, I’m thrilled that my response still resonates. The following is the question and response (edited for better readability): What are some unspoken rules during a job interview? Unspoken rules of the interview that I share with my clients include: Dress professionally, be polite to everyone and arrive at least 15–20 minutes early. Have a firm handshake. Realize that you actually control the “climate” or “flow” of the interview. Approach the interview with confidence in your abilities (not arrogance).  Remember that the interview is a two-way street - your expertise is a blessing to a company. Approach the interview as a “discussion” versus an interview. Say the interviewer’s name withi

Do you really need a new position or actually need a new perspective?

  This article was first posted in 2017/2018. It has been updated for 2022. Have you ever heard the old adage, “The grass is always greener on the other side?” A better description would be “The grass always APPEARS greener on the other side.” It is a part of human nature to want more, to compare ourselves to others and think that their lives or in this case careers are more exciting or the companies they work for are super wonderful. We may even go as far as to say, “If I had (fill in the name)’s career, I would be so much further in my life.” Or “If I worked at (fill in the company name), I would be happier and better appreciated.” However, when we get to the “ other side ” we find that the grass was painted green and isn’t even real and not only that, we have also now been assigned the task of painting it green. By this time, unfortunately too late, we realize that the grass really isn’t greener on the other side at all and are now full of regrets.   We now frantically begin loo